Playing Cards

Uncle Bernie O’Grady, Uncle Ed Crotty, Mom and Dad

I grew up playing cards. It started with nickel and dime rummy at the kitchen table with my parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts/uncles – whoever was around. It’s just what we did. And as you can see from the pic, the cards started long before I was around. I believe this is in the 87th/Wood basement in Chicago where my Mom was raised. This picture includes my Uncle Bernie O’Grady who died a young man. I vaguely remember visiting Uncle Bernie at school in Carbondale, Illinois and that he lived on a houseboat. (Some O’Grady can check me on that.) My Uncle Ed Crotty was married to Aunt Kay, my Mom’s sister. Finally, my Dad, in his favorite pose at the poker table, raking it in.

I am finding that old photos of everyday life like these are rare. Because cameras were for special occasions. And the camera was a thing you had to remember to bring with you, remember to take a picture, and wait for the roll of 12 or 24 or 36 exposures to be used. Then of course the roll was taken to Walgreens and left there for a week to be developed. Hopefully, some of the photos turned out. Were in focus with everyone’s eye open. Without the photog’s finger in front of the lens.

Now, of course, everyone has a camera all the time and everyday life is constantly captured. And instantly photos are judged for quality and shared. There will not be someone like me in 40 years sifting through polaroids. They will be hopefully – if we save properly – sifting through digital files.

O’Grady Cousins

O’Grady 50th Anniversary, June 1979- the grainy cousin pic

In a previous post, I mentioned that I was part of a large extended family. Here are most of my O’Grady cousins gathered for my Grandparent’s 50th. Remember this does not include my cousins on my Dad’s side, and I am looking for a picture of that crowd. I recall the many gatherings to celebrate Baptisms, First Communions, and Confirmations with potato salad, soda bread, and cake. Usually a poker game broke out.

How I wish there is a better picture! Please send me one if you have it… My brother Joe was consulted to see if we could get all the names right, and I am ready to be corrected. Last name = O’Grady unless they are my siblings or it is noted.

Front of table: sister Cathy, sister Terry, me, Shawn, Peggy Crotty, Beth

Back of table: Scott, Bernie, Jim McMullen, Mike McMullen, Patty, Henry, Ray, Erin, Mike, Grandma, Eddie Crotty, Bernie Crotty, Grandpa, Leslie, Mary Jo Crotty, unknown (to me) religious Sister, Bridget McMullen, Ami, Patrick, brother Jim, Chris with Joe, Jay, brother Joe. As we got older it is easier to identify everyone, and I am concerned I don’t have the three girls between Mary Jo and Patrick correct. One could be Mollie – sorry!

A Gathering of the Vaccinated

An outside gathering for John (red check) and Mary’s (blue striped sweater) 70th Anniversary

My parent’s joy beamed from their faces as guests arrived for what started as a small informal dinner to celebrate their 70th Anniversary. Nineteen attended, most expected, but some including me from Texas and sons Kevin and Jeff were surprises. Seeing my Mom’s mouth agape when Kevin (Florida) and Jeff (Texas) walked into their home – priceless. Just I loved seeing cousins and other family members who we just have not seen in, let’s say, a pandemic.

And there it is, a pandemic. The pandemic that scuttled a 90th birthday party last year for my Mom that would have gathered the entire family, keeps us at a distance, and has us worried for our lives. And even with all the vaccinations, there is still the feeling that maybe the gathering wasn’t so smart. Why put us all at risk, even a lessened risk with our vaccinations? Maybe the answer is joy, connection, and love. For me, I hope God graces me with many more years for that joy. For Mom and Dad, their joy was palpable yesterday, and for that I am very happy.

Happy 70th(!!) Anniversary

Sep 8, 1951: Bea & Joe O’Grady, Mary & John Beatty, Anne & Jim Beatty

My wonderful parents Mary and John Beatty were married on Saturday morning Sep 8, 1951 at St. Ethelreda Parish in Chicago, Illinois. After the ceremony, the family went out to breakfast, and then the reception was held that evening in the O’Grady basement at 87th and Wood, were many parties with music and singing were held over the years. My Aunt Kay Crotty was Maid of Honor and John Porter was Best Man with a wedding party full of my aunts and uncles.

Nonagenarians Mom and Dad live today at home in Palos Heights blessed with a long, happy and healthy life – though either of them might argue with me about “healthy” these past few years. That said, they are living at home, are mobile with the help of a cane, and are mentally strong.

Mary and John have a large extended family with many grandchildren and great-grandchildren. We love them, and they are a great model for us showing grace in aging. Happy Anniversary! (I’ll post a current pic next time I am in Chicago…)